How Do I Make a Decision?

Most birthparents who consider adoption struggle a great deal with their decision. It's very normal to go back and forth in this process. It is helpful to remember that it is a process.
You Make All The Choices.


Counseling is often very beneficial as you struggle with your decision. Real counseling isn't about telling you what you should do or pressuring you toward one side or another. It's about helping you look at your options; weighing your "pros and cons" and helping you search your heart.

At CFS, crisis pregnancy counseling is provided free of charge and is non-pressured and supportive. You are viewed as a capable person in a difficult situation. You will always be treated with respect and empathy.

Birthmothers are often at various stages of their pregnancy when considering adoption. You may have many months to make your decision or only a few short days or weeks.

It's usually beneficial to have come to a tentative decision about plans for your baby by your seventh month of pregnancy. However, we know that this isn't always possible. And, we also know some will change their decision after the baby is born. However, counseling can help you face the issues in your life and ease the decision making process. Having a direction several weeks before birth can greatly help in the preparation process to come.

No decision is final until after the baby is born. At that time, your counselor will help you re-process the decision once again. If you still remain confident that adoption is the best plan for your child, your final decision is then carried through by signing necessary legal paper work. The exact procedures will vary depending upon the State in which the adoption occurs.

We are here for you! For real help, contact Susan now!
(913.383.3337 or toll free 877.560.4428) or e-mail: susan@cfskc.org

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