You probably have a lot of mixed feelings right now. Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy is probably one of the hardest things you will ever have to do.

Not everyone feels the same way. But most birthparents go through various feelings of shock, anger, sadness and confusion among other emotions. Many birthparents also feel relief in knowing there are adoptive families who can provide their children a happy and stable home. Many feel a sense of joy in being able to help a couple fulfill their dream of parenting and loving a child. Many grow to care deeply for the adoptive parents as they realize they also want to provide what is best for the child.

You may experience more emotions than you thought possible. It's important to deal with your feelings and not bury them. Concluding that you are not prepared or able to be the best parent for your child at this time does not mean you are an inadequate or bad person. It is an indication that you are seeking the best for this new life you are giving birth to. This is another way in which counseling can be very beneficial.